I know the feeling. When you are knee-deep in parenting, and it seems like there is no relief. These moments cause me to question my responsibility as a Mama.
The act of pouring out and serving constantly, can be tiresome, and frustrating at times. In other words, if we’re not careful, it can cause a major burnout.
One of the biggest pitfalls is relying on our feelings. When we allow our emotions to lead us during the meltdowns, corrections, and constant serving; we set ourselves up for an explosion waiting to happen.
Our feelings create the illusion of self entitlement.
I have found myself succumbing to feelings of giving up and entertaining thoughts like… I should be doing something more significant. Is there something out there better for me? Did I miss out on life?
This is my desperate plea for unbalanced attention, appreciation and approval.
During these times we cannot depend on our hearts.
The heart is deceitful above all things,
and desperately sick;
who can understand it? -Jeremiah 17:9
How can we overcome these feelings of doubt?
Obedience is required. God’s grace is sufficient in our weaknesses, and I am grateful for this. However, sometimes, I think we will ride grace, as if it were a free pass. In addition to God’s grace, we have the responsibility to obey Him. If we have a heart problem, how can will deal with it, in a way that is pleasing to God? First, we must repent. Change begins with humility, admitting our sin and asking God for His help.
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 (NASB)
Discipline helps to eliminate unnecessary frustration.
Oh boy, this is an ongoing lesson for me. In our obedience to God, we should also desire to live a disciplined life. Discipline (and diligence) are mentioned several times in the Bible. When we live diligently we create a successful environment versus one that will promote failure for ourselves and our children.
She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Proverbs 31:27
What areas can you develop a more disciplined life? Do you need to create a morning and bedtime routine, for you and your children? Begin the morning earlier than your family? Create a cleaning schedule to manage your home? Exercise and/or healthier food choices to obtain more energy and a better mood? A Bible study and prayer routine?
Rely on the Word of God.
For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart. -Hebrews 4:12 (NASB)
Choose 1-2 scriptures to write down and memorize to defeat thoughts of giving up and to strengthen you during difficult moments.
Cry out to God in prayer.
If you are in the middle of an intense moment with your children, and can feel the frustration coming on; stop what you are doing and say a prayer. Even, if its just Jesus, help! I do this often!
In my distress I called upon the LORD; to my God I cried for help. From his temple he heard my voice, and my cry to him reached his ears. -Psalm 18:6 (ESV)
Isn’t comforting to know that God hears our cries?!
Choose to be responsible for your own actions.
This is something I teach my children constantly. I am in need of this reminder as well! Okay here comes the tough-love. The issue is not your children, it’s you. Stop blaming them and realize you need a heart change. Ask God to give you the wisdom and humility to make the needed changes. Then we can use proper judgment in training children. Whew, I know…this is for me too!
Motherhood is a beautiful experience and privilege. Oftentimes, we have to take our eyes off of our circumstances and recognize our blessings, even in the tough moments.
Behold, children are a c]gift of the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3
Let’s use the above tools to conquer our negative thoughts and feelings, and practice gratitude for the life we have.
How are you appreciating this season of motherhood?